The Role Of ” Sex ” In The Relationship


How important is sex for the relationship? Is the “great sex” contributes to relationship satisfaction, precave of separation? Does the “bad sex” or lack of sex cause negative consequences, affects the possibility of divorce?

With the significant advancement of sexology and sexual medicine in recent years, today we can mention certain trends in matching the surveys and research studies:

  • The vast majority of the population holds that sex is a very important aspect in their lives, especially among those who are married
  • The vast majority of men and women either married or a couple argue that they care much to have a satisfying sex life
  • The vast majority of people claim that an enjoyable sex life enhances their quality of life
  • The vast majority of people argue that an unsatisfactory sex life can lead to many problems such as depression and especially lead to the breakup of the relationship
  • The vast majority of research conclude that transverse subjective sexual well-being is positively correlated with the general level of happiness, both men and women, and that, conversely, sexual dysfunctions are highly associated with negative experiences in the relationship partner and general welfare, as well as physical health problems and emotional
  • There is evidence of a close relationship between sexual dysfunction and depression, which affect each other
  • The vast majority of transverse and longitudinal studies have repeatedly shown that those who live with a partner, have better health, live longer, feel more at peace and are more satisfied with their lives than those who do not
  • The vast majority of the population live in couple or family wanting to live in

Sexual Medicine suggests that sexuality is part of our overall health and a fulfilling sex life brings significant benefits to our physical and emotional wellbeing, increasing satisfaction with life in general, relative acting as an antidote against mental symptoms and mood stabilizing . Chile also reported that people put much of their hopes of self in sexuality, along with love and married life (Bicentennial Survey).

Empirical evidence agree that sexual well being and subjective satisfaction with the couple go together for both sexes. For example, even families with small children, unstable finances and strenuous times, say they have a very strong bond, which partially attributed to its pleasurable sexual life. Those who declare themselves pleased with both their marriage and with their sex life say their sex are common, they do not want to have sex with other people, who often refuse their partner sexually, and if it rejects them, are tolerant and understanding. In marriages “healthy” long-standing, both see sex as an expression of sensuality, passion, tenderness, affection, love and play. I met within the relationship and not used to manipulate or resolving conflicts.

In contrast, sexual dissatisfaction negatively affects the perception of others and the relationship as a whole. Lack of sex for long periods has been correlated with decreased and mutual satisfaction with discouragement and apathy in communication, routine, boredom, inertia and disinterest. In most sexually dissatisfied couples, life becomes complicated and sexual problems affect other planes, manifesting in miscommunication, reproaches and emotional distress, among others. Moreover, sexual satisfaction helps maintain the illusion, triggers the mechanism approach, enjoyment, growth and eroticism, in other words, is a major factor contributing motivational and fun to look forward to resolving difficulties with other areas, noting that one should not fall into believing that coexistence problems can be solved through sex or that most of the disagreements are due to sex.

But correlations above what came first, the chicken or the egg?; Does a positive link partner increased sexual satisfaction is the opposite?. The data suggest that if the person is dissatisfied with her marriage, hardly feel pleased with your sex life, similarly, if you are frustrated with some important aspect of your sex life (frequency, level of sensuality, hygiene, etc.), It Most likely not perceive that their relationship is appropriate. Consequently, sexuality and relationship are closely related; difficultly may stand in the time of these satisfactions if not present the other also. Sexual problems affect the relationship, in the same way that conflicts in the couple relationship influence the sexual relationship.

The sexual wellbeing plays a significant role in dyadic adjustment. There is a high correlation between marital stability, on the one hand, and sexual satisfaction, feelings of love and emotional expression, on the other hand. It is concluded that, for a marriage to work relatively well, there must be a minimum of sexual gratification, and that sense of confidence that is generated with sexual life would increase, in turn, marital success. According to cross-sectional studies of marriages “happy and lasting” (married 25 years), 90% say that the feeling of closeness is an essential aspect in marital satisfaction and that among the factors that determine the closeness, a satisfying is essential in general, since it is necessary to generate the feeling of being in the company, of sharing and fellowship.

But how important is sexual wellness on other variables? In a recent survey found that for 57% of participants, sex occupied a special place in their lives in general and the percentage rises to 80% compared to the relevance assigned within their partnership (for 39% accounted for almost half of the entire relationship and only 4% relegates to the background, giving a 20% significance). Similarly, the comparársela with other factors, while the sexual satisfaction explain approx. 60% of the variance in marital satisfaction, temperament explain approx. 20% and approx personality. 10% (ie the dimensions of neuroticism and extraversion). Moreover, the positive dimensions of temperament and personality are mediated by the sexual, ie affect marital satisfaction as long as there is a sexual being (however, although less significant individual traits, sexual activity is influenced by the personality ). Other findings suggest that the significance of the pair assigned to your sex life does not diminish with the years of coexistence, but remains constant and that sex has the potential to evolve into something even more satisfying over time.
Are there gender differences?. Each person and each couple has its own sexuality differently, with no rules or recipes for living and may have, for each member, so a value as a different meaning: for some it is basically a physical pleasure, while for others it is an emotional component of union with the other. Until relatively short time ago, the significance attributed to men sex in marital satisfaction was higher than in women. However, in recent years has caused a shift, with the highest priority to them (70%) than for them (56%). The new generation of females say they are sexually active need to feel good, it affects their self-esteem and personal satisfaction, and that, conversely, no sexual pleasure feel needy, nervous and frustrated.

Does it matter the frequency of sex? Most studies conclude that this is a decisive factor in marital adjustment, whereas as less assiduous, the greater the likelihood of instability – independent of the variable frequency agree – especially for men, who are reported happier with their marriage when there was more sex and less masturbation. In contrast, in women, a more fulfilling sexuality was before linked positive affect toward a spouse, emotional well-being and pleasure, rather than the number of relationships. But recently it has been found that the frequency is being particularly significant in the subjective satisfaction of them with your partner, holding that the more frequent and enjoyable, more want to. The pleasure of lovemaking, feeds the desire itself.

One skilled in the happiness of Chileans (Tironi) suggests that sexual frequency has an important report happiness for individuals and couples who have sex are more stable than the rest of the population, therefore, are happier. And this is exacerbated among those who have had access to a good education, that is, the more educated people, makes them happier as often sexual. Although other authors argue that the amount would be less important than the subjective feeling of satisfaction with sex life, where the depth of intimacy plays a very important role.

Why is it so important to sexual satisfaction? Among the possible scenarios you can use the triangular theory of love, which postulates that sexual passion and intimacy are two of the three fundamental pillars of any relationship and, for others, sexual manifestations comprise of intimacy and further potentiate practice. The data indicate that intimacy repeatedly (with empathy) ranks first among the objectives sought in marriage and intimacy that is associated with both sexual satisfaction to marital.

Another explanation can be found in neurobiological theories, which emphasize the role of sexual pleasure in the natural support of the bond in couples in stable relationships and persistent. Specifically postulate that, whenever the couple experiences a satisfying sexual encounter, such releases of oxytocin in the brain and in the body that increases the sense of union between them, of belonging and security. So while most have a satisfactory sex partner, the stronger the bond between them, they will feel closer and attached to each other, feeling happier in their marriage.

intercourseSo when we talk about sexuality, not referring only to intercourse or mere sexual pleasure. We are sexual beings when we touched, kissed and hugged, but also when we laugh and have fun together. The erotic experience involves more than just genital interaction, involves expression of emotions, bonding, complicity and a very intimate form of communication, where we can be so in confidence to dare to show vulnerable, asking for help and expressing fears without feeling judged . Human beings, as complex and highly developed organism, requires a level of satisfaction that encompasses various components in order to achieve a sense of harmony and wholeness. That is, a positive and comprehensive sexuality is a much higher gratification and complete than the purely biological and is in this sense that, if done within the context of affectively suitable partner, will enable us to meet the needs of both physical order as the psycho-emotional and psychosocial.

In conclusion, there is consensus that sexuality is a fundamental pillar in itself of the relationship beyond the feelings and communication. However, as in many other situations of human life, is not much, nor too little and depends on many other factors involved. What is that, ultimately, sex is a powerful bond between the couple and represents a way of being in pairs is qualitatively very different as can be with other peoplea

Have A Hot Body Not Hot Flashes! – Get A Hot Body

hotHow To Balance Your Metabolism, Restore Your Figure and Feel Great Forever. The four step plan that melts stubborn fat and revives your metabolism when all else has failed!

One of the most frustrating things that can happen to a woman is to reach a certain age, sometimes in your early twenties, and start gaining weight. Not just any kind of weight, this weight is different. It comes on faster and son of a gun is it harder to get off.

For women in their forties and fifties they call it “middle age spread” and you won’t find a whole lot of help or answers in the usual places. In fact, doctors with their conventional mindset will usually tell you it’s a symptom of pre-menopause and yet another sign of aging.

To add insult to injury, when this “unexplained” weight gain starts to show it’s ugly head there can be a whole lot of other unwanted changes happening to a woman’s body and mind all at the same time.

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The results? PremPro actually increases the risk for heart disease, cancer, stroke, blood clots and did little to nothing for weight gain.

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Today’s Top news – New wrinkle in pot debate: stoned driving

healthDENVER (AP) – Angelina Chilton says he can not lead unless she smokes marijuana. The woman from the suburbs of Denver says she never get behind the wheel after smoking, but she uses medical marijuana twice a day to relieve the tremors caused by multiple sclerosis, who previously dropped out of his house.

“I do not drink and drive, and I do not smoke and drive,” he said. “But my body is completely saturated with THC.”

His case highlights a problem that no one is sure how to solve: How to know if someone is too stoned to drive?

The states that allow medical marijuana have been faced with determining the levels of deterioration for years. And voters in Colorado and Washington state will decide this fall whether to legalize the drug for recreational use, bringing new urgency to the issue.

An advocate of marijuana in Denver says officials are scrambling to the limits, partly because most drivers recognize drug use.

“The explosion of medical marijuana patients has led to a large number of conductors protruding from the card (marijuana) in the face of law enforcement, saying, ‘You can not do anything for me, I’m legal,” Sean McAllister said, a lawyer who defends people accused of driving under the influence of marijuana.

It’s not that simple. Driving under the influence of any drug is illegal in all states.

However, highlights enforcement officials face the challenges with old tools to try to solve a new problem. Most now drugged driving convictions are based on observations of the police, followed later by a blood test.

The authorities expect a legal threshold for the pot that would be comparable to the blood alcohol standard for determining drunken driving.

But unlike alcohol, marijuana stays in the blood long after the high goes away a couple of hours after use, and there is no quick test to determine the level of damage to a person – not that scientists have not been working on it.

Dr. Marilyn Huestis, National Institute on Drug Abuse, a government research laboratory, said that soon there will be a saliva test to detect recent use of marijuana.

But government officials say that does not address the issue of disability.

“I’ll be dead – and so will many others – of old age before knowing the levels of damage” to marijuana and other drugs, said White House drug czar Gil Kerlikowske.

Authorities recognize the need for a solution. Marijuana causes dizziness, increased reaction time and drivers are more prone to drift and drift when they are discharged.

Dr. Bob DuPont, president of the Institute for Behavior and Health, a non-governmental institute that works to reduce drug abuse, says research shows “the terrible carnage on the highways caused by marijuana” .

A recent review of several studies on marijuana use and traffic accidents suggested that driving after smoking marijuana could nearly double the risk of serious or fatal accident.

And a recent national census of fatal traffic accidents showed that while fatalities have declined in recent years, the percentage of fatally injured drivers who tested positive later for drugs increased 18 percent between 2005 and 2011.

DuPont, the drug czar for presidents Richard Nixon and Gerald Ford, wrote an article last year at the drugged driving for the Obama administration, which has made the issue a priority.

Doctors say that while many tests can show if someone has recently used pot, it is more difficult to detect deterioration at any given time.

Urine tests and blood are best to show if a person uses the drug in the past – as employers and probation officers to use them. But determining the actual damage is much more complicated.

“There is no sure answer to this question,” said Dr. Guohua Li, a researcher at Columbia University that examined marijuana use and car accidents last year.

Their study linked pot use to crash risk, but noted the large differences in the investigation. Scientists have no conclusive evidence linking the dose of marijuana to the probability of an accident, whether it matters if the drug is smoked or eaten, or how marijuana interacts with other drugs.

The limited data has provoked a furious debate.

The proposed solutions include setting limits on the amount of the main psychoactive chemical in marijuana, THC, drivers can have in your blood. But the limits of THC to determine impairment are not widely accepted.

Two states place the rule in 2 nano-grams per milliliter of blood. Others have zero tolerance policies. And Colorado and Washington are discussing a threshold of 5 nano-grams.

This failed attempt by the Colorado Legislature last year, amid opposition from Republicans and Democrats. State officials then set up a working group to resolve the issue – and the panel disagreed.

This year, Colorado lawmakers are debating a similar measure, but its sponsors recognize that they do not know if the “driving while high” bill will pass.

In Washington state, the ballot measure to legalize marijuana includes a limit of 5 nanograms of THC.

Supporters of the measure say polling indicates a limit of driving could be crucial to winning public support for legalization.

“Voters were very concerned about drunk driving,” said Alison Holcomb, director of the campaign for legalization measure in Washington.

Holcomb also referred to a proposal to legalize marijuana in California two years does not include a THC limit driving.

The White House, which has a reduction target drugged driving by 10 percent over the next three years, wants the states to establish a standard blood level at which to base convictions, but has not said what should be the limit.

Government officials insist that marijuana should remain illegal, and Kerlikowske called it a “fallacious argument” that any legal level of THC in a driver is safe.

However, several factors can distort the blood of THC, such as age, sex, weight and frequency of marijuana use. In addition, THC can remain in the weeks after a system user sobers up, leading to anxiety shared by many in the 16 states with medical marijuana: It could be at risk of a positive result at any time if you have recently used drugs or not.

A forensic toxicologist Colorado recently stated that “5 nanograms is more than fair” to determine intoxication. But for now the proposed blood tests are still politically-charged supporters and opponents of legalization of marijuana hinged support on the issue.

Huestis, government-funded drug abuse institute, said that a simple saliva test to use on the road that can determine the use of marijuana – as opposed to marijuana use long ago – is currently being final testing and will be ready for the police rarely used.

The researchers envision a day when the evidence of marijuana are so common in police cars as breathalyzers.

Until then, legislators will consider measures such as Colorado’s marijuana proposal for DUI, marijuana activists say that drivers often use threatening drug, as Chilton, the patient with multiple sclerosis.

She says that since he began using marijuana has started driving again and for the first time in five years has gotten a job.

Proposed Colorado Chilton concerns threatening new found freedom.